Who is in Your Corner?

Who do you currently have in your corner? Did you take a look after what we talked about last week? Welcome back for the great second part to the circle of friends we talked about recently 😉. As we talked about last week, it is important to know who you have in your corner when it comes to who you are surrounding yourself with. This week, we need to talk about how to pick the ‘right’ people. I mean, how do we know who belongs in our life? How are we supposed to know who has the right intentions? Are there ways to recognize the people we want in our life without being tricked?

We’ve all experienced it at one point or another… a person we truly trusted and relied on turned out to be a bum, manipulating or using us in a way that ended up pretty hurtful for us because we fully trusted them. Now you might be at a point where you had enough of it and are ready to be selective and specific. I get it. Having the wrong people around you is draining. When you don’t have the right people in your corner, going through certain life phases can be extremely challenging. Having the right people makes the whole rollercoaster just a little bit easier. Having the right people in your corner helps you to reach your goals and success you are wanting in life.

Be Selective Who Gets to be in Your Corner

You might’ve noticed by now that there are different types of people in this world. And there sure are certain types that is good to surround yourself with. Who you decide to surround yourself with makes a huge difference. I know it might not seem like it sometime, but you are going to recognize it as you start being more selective. When you have a helping hand, to reach your goals and success is just so much easier to do. When you have the right support, getting through challenges is doable.

Have you ever watched a movie with a boxing match in it before? Or a live event even when the boxer was beat up and ready to give up? He went to his corner and had this one person boosting him all up again. Next thing you know, he got back in the ring and was all ready to go again. Why? Because he had the right person in his corner. That’s exactly how it needs to be in our life when it comes to picking the right person for our corner. Someone that builds us up, that keeps giving us the boost to keep going. That helps us understanding what we’re facing and are able to give us the right advice on how to overcome it and get through it.

You always need a person that supports you. Choose the people that you are allowed to lean on when you feel like you can’t stand on your own feet alone any longer. Look for the person that is not holding back with offering you the helping hand when needed. Find the people that contribute in positive ways. The people that belong in your corner are the people that add VALUE to your life!

Different Types of People to be in Your Corner

With that said, let’s look at the type of people that is good for us to surround ourselves with. Who are the people that bring positivity to our life and our success?

The people that solve problems. The problem solvers don’t focus on the problem… Instead, they look at a way to fix problems. In life, we have problems every now and then. That’s normal. The question is, what do you want to do with it? This is not the time to have the person in your corner that constantly reminds you about why things are not working out. That’s the wrong focus to find a solution to the problem.

We most definitely want a passionate person with ambition in our corner. When you have someone with goals, that kind of person always encourages you to set and reach yours. Find the person that is working towards reaching things in life. Find out whether they have a clear picture about life. Those are perfect motivators for you in your corner.

The Motivators

There will always be ‘talkers’ and ‘doers’. You most definitely want the ‘doers’. You always find the talkers, everybody can talk. But when it comes to doing, who is willing to do what they say? That shows you who the people are with ambition as well. In college I had a bunch of friends with ‘big dreams’. At this point they are still sitting in the same place with those dreams, but nothing has physically changed because they still haven’t become doers yet. Having a goal or a dream is not enough… You have to be willing to become a doer in order to reach it. Start putting your plan into action and see where that takes you. Set goals (small steps at a time…), with a deadline to achieve it. Find the person that inspires you to overcome procrastination to have in your corner.

One of the best people everyone needs to have in their corner is the person that brings out the best in you. Find the person that helps you finding your full potential. Have a person that understands you. Not the one that feels sorry for you, but understands you. You need that person that you can talk about anything with… the good, the bad and the ugly of your life. When you have that person in your corner, it helps you to see your true self and builds up confidence inside you. It will give you that feeling of empowerment that gives you the needed boost in life situations.

When They Walk Your Journey with You

Who is on a similar journey as you? Do you have a person that has similar goals as you? Find a person that aspires you. For me it was great when I found a person that is on a similar journey, but is already several steps ahead of me. Why? Because I can relate to that person and it’s been so encouraging and uplifting to see hope to get through it all. That person was a huge support through very hard times. I had the most meaningful conversations with her. And most of all, I can always ask for advice and she is always there to help when I feel stuck. That is a person that inspires me and is a legit role model everyone needs to have in their corner.

Another very important person to have in your corner is the person that can give you honest, genuine feedback in your life. Not the surface level, ‘nice person’. You need someone that is willing to point out your blind spots in a caring way. Have a person in your corner that can give their honest opinion about you and does it with the right motives. Find the person that is ready to help you to work on your weak spots, helps you better yourself and is there to help you grow!

When going through your journey, there are challenges. There are difficulties. And there are hardships and moments that make you feel low in life. It is so so so important to have great support to get through those times. What do I mean by that… You need people that lift you up during those times. During those times you need a boost of encouragement.

Those are the people that are there for you when you need it the most and won’t leave you hanging. Instead, they help you get back up and don’t allow you to give up and quit. One time I had a rough time and called a friend of mine crying, she told me to start dancing… right there and then. In the middle of when I was crying and felt really low. The whole atmosphere changed from one moment to another. I was so thankful to have her in my corner at that point in time. Things could’ve went different if I wouldn’t have had her in that moment.

Choose Wisely, It’s Up to You

You choose who you allow to be in your corner. It is up to you to choose who you want to be in your inner circle. It is out of your control who people are and it is not your job to fix the people around you… But it is in your control who you entrust, allow to influence you and allow to be close to you. I am going to leave it at this for this week and hope you’ll let it marinate on your thoughts for a little bit.

To choose the right kind of people can be very hard, especially when you’ve already established a circle of friends. But to be surrounded by the right kind of people is so important. I’ve been through the process of having to cut off relationships that were established over many years because they were not good for me. Even though it was hurtful and hard, it was time to do what is best for me. And that meant letting go. You have the strength to do it… the only thing you need now is the willingness. Start surrounding yourself with the right kind of people and I promise you, you will see amazing changes. I can say that out of personal experience 😊. No regrets! Do it for yourself. You owe it to yourself!